Learn the difference between 'relaxation' and 'restraint'. Two different ways of viewing and responding to situations and the world in general. When we restrain our energy, it causes restriction and stagnation. When we relax into a situation, our response is much healthier.
How we frame experiences impacts our perception of them. We get to choose our response to events. Regular Qigong practice gives us the mental space to take a step back and frame or (re-frame) situations in a way that is helpful and healthy.